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Mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children

Mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children

Let’s look at mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children. A litigated divorce can be financially and emotionally draining on those involved in the process. When going through a divorce or separation, the parents are undoubtedly on a rollercoaster journey of emotions and this is a taxing time, often heightened by the more lengthy and costly litigation process. While the emotional difficulties will be an obstacle, either way, the process of divorce mediation provides a more relaxed environment where parents are encouraged to reach amicable solutions, including those regarding the children.

Divorce Mediation

Divorce Mediation

Divorce mediation is a process where a mediator facilitates the exchange between the parties and assists them in finding areas of agreement. The aim is to achieve results that are mutually agreed upon, and in the best interests of the parties and the children. Issues largely discussed in mediation are children, home, distribution of assets, maintenance and the divorce itself. The mediator facilitates discourse around these issues, leading to the parties negotiating a settlement.

Why Use a Mediator?

“Dispute poison” occurs when opponents battle it out, for revenge, retaliation, and financial compensation for emotional loss, and so on, thinking that this will ease the pain of loss or still the anger they feel towards the other.

Too often, after the breakdown of a relationship, or in conflict situations, people seek legal intervention which fosters acrimony, hostility, anger, bitterness, incapacitating emotional stress and recurrent wounding. Our intervention seeks to prevent this by facilitating the process of returning people to their honor and integrity, by creating an agreement of terms that is emotionally intelligent, and by fostering constructive ways to resolve issues.

Intervention Principles



Constructive Solution Seeking

Cost Effectiveness

Win-win Outcomes

Equal Opportunity/ Equal Input/ Balanced Agreement