Why Divorce Mediation?

Why Divorce Mediation?

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Why Divorce Mediation?

Author: Avalene Bateman

The decision to divorce is one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make, with consequences that will effect you and your family for the rest of your lives.

Our aim as divorce mediators is to assist you firstly in being certain of your decision. We also look at the reasons for the breakdown of the relationship and in so doing see if the relationship can be salvaged and if not, what would be the best possible outcome for all involved. The partners, the family, and even the extended family and friends will be emotionally impacted in some way. Choosing the mediation route rather than acrimonious litigation is at least some conscious and mindful way of minimizing the negative effects of divorce/termination of a relationship. Furthermore, in understanding the reasons for the breakdown of the relationship, the partners are offered a chance for healing in a safe and non judgmental environment. This is essential for both parties to be able to move forward with their lives in the most constructive way possible, and helps with the negotiation process by removing some of the underlying issues that would hinder equitable settlement and co parenting.

Once we have completed the initial task of understanding the breakdown of the relationship, we then begin settlement negotiations, where we guide you on coming to agreement regarding the splitting of the assets. This can be highly emotionally charged, and our aim is to bring peace and integrity to the decision making process. All agreements reached will be carefully documented and will form the Memorandum of Understanding between the parties.

Lastly, we assist you with a Parenting Plan that outlines all your roles and responsibilities regarding any minor children. We also conduct child interviews to help ascertain what would be in the best interests of the children.

We assist with contested as well as uncontested divorces, customary and civil cases.

The divorce mediation moves at a pace that is comfortable for both parties and can be completed very quickly and stress free depending on the issues at hand.

Divorce mediation is not a legal or forensic intervention, as such the exorbitant costs of litigation are not accrued. You will be given a Memorandum of Understanding at the termination of the mediation, and this document will serve as your divorce papers.

Why choose us:

The primary benefit of a mediated process is to avoid a lengthy and conflictual legal battle. My passion is to help partners part in the most constructive way possible, once it is established that they are ready to terminate their relationship. I encourage honesty, fairness, integrity and peace. With over 25 years in private practice as a clinical psychologist, and over 10 years working as a mediator, I bring a combination of skills that will assist you and your family during this traumatic time. I am able to assess the impact on your children and refer to other specialists where necessary.

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Pictured Above: Avalene Bateman

Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.

Divorce Mediation in Sandton & Rosebank, Johannesburg

Divorce Mediation in Sandton & Rosebank, Johannesburg

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Divorce Mediation in Sandton & Rosebank, Johannesburg

Author: Avalene Bateman

Bateman Professional Mediators offer Divorce Mediation in Sandton and Rosebank, Johannesburg.

Divorce mediation offers an alternative to litigation. Mediation is conducted in a safe, unbiased environment where fairness, amicability, and the client’s wellbeing are at the forefront of negotiations. In mediation, the parties are encouraged to reach mutual decisions regarding their divorce proceedings as well as decisions surrounding the children going into the future. Divorce mediation is a suitable choice for couples of any age, religion, culture, gender or demographic.

A litigated divorce can be very costly and emotionally strenuous. Mediation is conducted in a therapeutic environment in which we endeavor to put the individual first and guide the couple through the divorce process in a non-biased way with fairness and amicability in the forefront. Divorce is a very stressful event in anyone’s life and added heightened dispute can cause excess stress on those involved. In the mediation environment, disputes are worked through amicably and each party is given their time to voice their wishes, views, and suggestions, upon which the mediator guides the pair to reach an agreement.

We will draw up a Memorandum of Understanding regarding the divorce proceedings. This will break down all the decisions the clients have come to regarding their separation. We also guide the couple in drawing up a parenting plan that takes the best interests of the children into account.

Parenting plans are constructed in the mediation process to provide parents going through a separation with a structured, functional and sound plan that depicts all decision made by the parents concerning the children. It is therefore encouraged we mediate to a point of a sound agreement by both parties, as both parties will be encouraged to stick to the agreements that are detailed in their subsequent parenting plans. This is important as it helps minimize any undue conflict that may arise and keep a sense of continuity and structure for the children also going through the separation with the parents. In the parenting plan, our main focus will be on the discussion of care, contact, and maintenance of the child/children.

Bateman Macmillan Professional Mediators offer mediation services in Johannesburg and Pretoria. Do you need Professional Mediation services to facilitate your Divorce Process? Contact Bateman Macmillan Professional Mediators today. With years of experience, we can facilitate amicable resolutions to disputes.

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Pictured Above: Avalene Bateman

Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.

Benefits of Divorce Mediation

Benefits of Divorce Mediation

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This is a useful article on the benefits of divorce mediation written by Ben Stich.

 There are many paths to divorce. Each has advantages and disadvantages. Learning about your options will help you make a well-informed decision for you and your family.

As for divorce mediation, many clients find that the advantages include:

Developing an agreement that works for both of you. Divorce mediation empowers you to make your own decisions about what is in the best interest of your children; your finances; and your futures.

Ensuring privacy because mediation is a confidential process. The mediator will not be allowed to testify on behalf of you or your spouse. This allows you to speak openly without fear of something being used against you.

Giving you complete control over the decision-making process. One of the core principles of mediation is self-determination. This means that all decisions are ultimately yours to make, not an attorney and not a judge.

Helping save time and money because divorce mediation allows you to pay for one professional, rather than hiring two separate attorneys, each of whom probably charge higher rates than a mediator. The divorce process also moves more quickly than litigation because mediation provides a process that is designed to help you come to resolution rather than contest every issue through an attorney.

Enhancing child well-being because mediation helps improve communication between the divorcing parents, and results in better child-centered decisions.

 

Bateman Macmillan Professional Mediators offer mediation services in Johannesburg and Pretoria. Do you need Professional Mediation services to facilitate your Divorce Process? Contact Bateman Macmillan Professional Mediators today. With years of experience, we can facilitate amicable resolutions to disputes.

Information Provided by: Ben Stich, LICSW, M.Ed.

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Pictured Above: Avalene Bateman

Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.

Mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children

Mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children

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Mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: The Effects on Children

Author: Avalene Bateman

Let take a look at mediated divorce versus litigated divorce and the effects on children.

Let’s look at mediated Divorce versus Litigated Divorce: Effects on Children. A litigated divorce can be financially and emotionally draining on those involved in the process. When going through a divorce or separation, the parents are undoubtedly on a rollercoaster journey of emotions and this is a taxing time, often heightened by the more lengthy and costly litigation process.

While the emotional difficulties will be an obstacle, either way, the process of divorce mediation provides a more relaxed environment where parents are encouraged to reach amicable solutions, including those regarding the children.

Children are more perceptive that generally noted, and are greatly affected by the environment around them. They will flourish in a loving, calm environment, and feel anxious in a hostile, drastically changing environment. When the parents are functioning on heightened emotional levels of frustration and stress, it is possible that the children will pick up on this and feel the stress of the situation themselves which can be harmful on a child’s emotional wellbeing.

When parents are in the throes of a litigation battle, it is possible a child can be involved in custody battles. In an event such as this a child could be exposed to a hostile environment between parents, and the child’s voice may not be heard, further leading to emotional distress in the child.

On the other side, divorce mediation is a shorter, less financially taxing process, where the focus is on reaching agreed upon solutions and compromise. Divorce mediation encourages parents to work together when making decisions regarding their children. When children are able to see parents cooperating, they will be able to feel more secure in their environment and are less likely to feel the emotional turmoil associated with arguing parents.

It is important to show the child that they are still loved by both parents and are not being put aside. In divorce mediation, parents are guided and encouraged to be cooperative, which allows the child to feel a sense of security in the family unit. Divorce mediation is conducted in a safe, caring environment, and divorce mediators are trained to guide the divorce discussions in a way that keep relationships functioning as best they can. This will be beneficial to the children who’s emotional wellbeing is at the forefront of parenting plans.

The divorce mediation process encourages the children’s voices to be heard and taken into account during the mediation process and when making decisions regarding the children. Therefore, what is best for the children is the main focus when discussing the parenting plan.

Mediation aims at minimizing stress, financial and emotional disruption as best as possible, and maximizing the ability of parents to communicate effectively and constructively during the divorce proceedings and going into the future, which in turn keeps theirs and their children’s wellbeing a major focus.

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Pictured Above: Avalene Bateman

Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.

Divorce Mediation

Divorce Mediation

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Divorce Mediation

Author: Avalene Bateman

Divorce mediation is a process where a mediator facilitates the exchange between the parties and assists them in finding areas of agreement. The aim is to achieve results that are mutually agreed upon, and in the best interests of the parties and the children. Issues largely discussed in mediation are children, home, distribution of assets, maintenance and the divorce itself. The mediator facilitates discourse around these issues, leading to the parties negotiating a settlement.

We believe that many disputes and conflicts arise from unprocessed emotion, and that an active focus on these unresolved emotions, at the outset of the mediation, is necessary and healing for both parties. Our aim is to uncover destructive emotions before the actual mediation begins, hopefully leading to understanding and compassion between the parties, and a return to mutual respect. Divorce is a painful process for all involved, and as such we seek to aid the parties during this traumatic journey, to act in integrity and resolve to part as amicably as possible.

On completion of the mediation, we draft a Memorandum of Understanding, documenting all agreements reached during the mediation. This may or may not include a Parenting Plan. This MoU is then taken by the parties to an attorney of their choice to be made a legal document for court purposes.

Contested divorces can cost hundreds of thousands of rands in fees and disbursements, and can take years before a settlement is reached. These divorces are most often extremely acrimonious, and leave both parties traumatized and wounded psychologically and financially. Our mediated process seeks a fair and equitable resolution, and attends to the parties’ psychological well-being as well as assisting settlement negotiations.

Do you need Professional Mediation with your Parenting Plan? Contact Bateman Macmillan Professional Mediators to facilitate your process. With years of experience we can facilitate amicable resolutions to disputes.

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Pictured Above: Avalene Bateman

Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.