Why Use a Mediator?
“Dispute poison” occurs when opponents battle it out, for revenge, retaliation, and financial compensation for emotional loss, and so on, thinking that this will ease the pain of loss or still the anger they feel towards the other.
Too often, after the breakdown of a relationship, or in conflict situations, people seek legal intervention which fosters acrimony, hostility, anger, bitterness, incapacitating emotional stress and recurrent wounding. Our intervention seeks to prevent this by facilitating the process of returning people to their honor and integrity, by creating an agreement of terms that is emotionally intelligent, and by fostering constructive ways to resolve issues.
Constructive Solution Seeking
Equal Opportunity/ Equal Input/ Balanced Agreement
What Is Mediation &
Who is IT For?
Mediation is a process whereby a facilitator sits in discourse with individuals in a dispute, and assists these individuals in finding a solution to their dispute. If disputes are purely factually based, an arbitrator or legal representative would be sufficient.
Most disputes, however, are not simply issues or facts based. The emotional or psychological content underlying the dispute is often the cause of the dispute itself. Mediation, therefore, should include and seek to address the emotional context of a dispute.
The process of mediation should seek an equal, balanced and unbiased resolution of the dispute, in the most cost and time efficient manner possible, and should include an analysis of the facts of the dispute, as well as analysis and resolution of the underlying psychological contributors.
Memorandum of Understanding
A memorandum of understanding is the final document of the mediation process that is taken by the couple to their lawyer for signing as the divorce agreement. This is the document that is worked on throughout the entire mediation process and is all the information needed for the divorce agreement. The memorandum of understanding details all the decisions made by the couple regarding their divorce proceedings and division of assets.
Avalene Bateman is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and mediation. She is registered with the Health Professionals Council of South Africa and the Board of Healthcare Funders.
Avalene`s areas of expertise include:
• Mediation and Conciliation
• Trauma and Recovery
“Avalene helped guide us to an amicable resolution and we also did a parenting plan that has worked well for all of us. I certainly recommend the services of Bateman Mediators.”
“Bateman Mediators helped us get to a settlement agreement quickly and calmly. And without the costs of lawyers. I would highly recommend them.”
“Avalene was completely professional, available and easy to communicate with. I would highly recommend and use her services again.”